Hindustan Times
May The Wank Be With You
Here’s a short post on masturbation.
“Doctor please help me. I am addicted to masturbation. I do it at least three times a day, sometimes even more. I can’t help it; the desire to do it just takes over. Now I think it is affecting my penis - which is looking run down and isn’t as erect as it used to be. Do you think I can have a normal married life?”
How many times have you read something like that in an agony aunt column? Seems like forever doesn’t it. 
Even today, ostensibly at an age where we are supposed to have information at our fingertips, many tormented souls feel guilty about touching themselves for erotic pleasure. Time was - when I was in school - old wives tales abounded about how masturbation caused all kinds of ailments like blindness and insanity, including (don’t know why I remember this!) hairy palms. If this were true, think of how many blind insane people with hairy palms we would have running around in the streets.
Why can’t things change…or have they? Consider a study I saw the other day in the Journal for Sexual Medicine on vibrator usage in America. Apparently, more than 50 per cent of adults there use vibrators. More specifically, 50 per cent of women use vibrators and surprisingly 45 per cent of men use them too. It of course transpires that a large portion of the male category use the vibrators on their women. But still, as much as 17 per cent use vibrators for self-stimulation - read masturbation.
Masturbation will always be a popular option
The study found that while vibrators are often hidden in sock drawers or beneath the bed, their use is a sign of a healthy sexual life. In fact, women who use vibrators were more likely to have had a gynecological exam during the past year and to have performed genital self-examination. These very same women also reported having better sex as well as experiencing higher sexual desire.
Men too fared much the same. The study says those men who use vibrators were more likely to report participation in sexual health promoting behaviors, such as testicular self-exam. In fact, the same men again scored much higher (than others who don’t use vibrators) on factors used to measure sexual function like erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire.
It’s an interesting study because it opens up a whole new front for masturbatory sex. Think about it: a vibrator is mostly used for (except when men use it on women) solo sex. Could then it be that as much as 50 per cent of America is dysfunctional and mainly gets off through the vibrations of a battery-induced sex toy? I don’t know. What it clearly shows is that more and more people use masturbation for sexual relief and aren’t labeled losers, despite popular derogatory terms like “wanker” and “jerk-off”.
Now if only those dorks in the agony aunt columns could get to know about this….
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Loading ...Posted by Vijay Thapa on Monday, July 27, 2009 at 8:14 pm
Filed under sex · Tagged doctor, married life, masturbation, sex, Sexual Medicine, vibrator
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it’s funny how when i look at back my school days ,we guys had this false theory going around that the amount of acne was directly proportional to the number of times you masturbated and how we used to label this one particular guy as the ‘Master’bator for the simple reason that he had a bad case of acne
i wonder if that’s where it starts..the whole stigmatisation of the whole deal.. can’t score goals in footie,Mr “loser-who overdoes it-cos he can’t get any of the real thing” are some of the stupid labels flying around because the person on the receiving end overindulges in the act..and for some reason most of them happened to be for worse rather than in favour of self-service.
As for me i like to subscribe to the Copy-paste solution which i’m sure the Agony-uncle/aunts use to answer these queries.it’s a great way of releasing your Accumulated sexual energy..it’s as simple as that..Rinse.wash.repeat
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NILANJAN Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 3:34 pm
TRUE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO WORK OUT AND WAIT FOR YOUR PARTNER TO GET IN FIRE.
EVERY TIME YOU DO IT YOU FEEL LIKE 14 YEAR OLD. IT IS MORE A BOYISH THING THAN A MAN ONE. IT ALWAYS REMINDS YOU THAT YOU ARE STILL YOUNG. JUST KEEP THE HANDLE MOVING.
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The survey is bang on. Women masturbate — and they do it a lot believe me. Most women cannot orgasm through penis penetration and need some clitoral stimulation. Sadly that is something that most Indian men are pretty inept at. Frankly I own two vibrators and I’ve been married for the last two years. Don’t know what I would have done without them
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Raju Reply:
July 29th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Can women have orgasm through nipple stimulation?
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rakesh Reply:
July 29th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
although digrees may vary,some of the women are super sensitive on nipples.but i doubt that its stimulation alone can lead to orgasm.
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Raju Reply:
July 29th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
Women can have multiple Orgasm. A man can at most have 3-10 orgasms within a day. But a woman can have almost 1000 orgasms within a day. So she could actually masturbate - clitoris or nipple - for 24 hours with 1000 orgasms.
varsha Reply:
July 31st, 2009 at 10:03 pm
wow! thousand orgasms! never had 1000 , but 5-6 in a day, yes..hahaha…
anyway, are these vibrator things available in india at all? or do they go against our great indian culture as does everything else…
seriously though i have never seen any agony aunt column or even any womens magazine touching the topic of female masturbation. hmmm why?
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Tia Reply:
August 1st, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Varsha.. iv looked for vibrators in bombay, and u do get them.. but (atleast the ones i found) were terrrrible !!
Nothing like whats available abroad. what i found looked (and felt) exactly like what it was - a cold hard rocket shaped piece of plastic. Quite a disappointment. Its a pity that i cant ask my “foreign-return” relatives to put it on their shopping list along with the MnS lingerie !
Tsk Tsk …
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rakesh Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 8:16 am
poor indian women,after they had to tolerate childish indian males(average,at least sexually),they dont find solace even in artificial things.btw i hv taught 2 of my girlfriends how to use the fingures creatively,and believe me it can be true magic,specially if u play with G spot as well simultaneously.
as males say…apna haath jagannath
women can say…..apni fingure,miraacle
cheers
Saurav Ganguly Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 9:19 pm
lol yea you cant definitely ask your foreigh relatives to bring it with them! haha thats a hillarious observation btw. Imagine saying: yea I would like an extra large Dildo, make sure it is extra large! lol I am cracking up at the expected reaction.
Funny Tia.
Raju Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Varsha,
Why don’t you try to continously masturbate for say 6 hours and see how many orgasms you can have…I am sure not less than 100.
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Hi Vijay
Very interesting post.True Natasha, girls do masturbate but never accept it. I won’t be surprised if tomorrow a survey comes that say 65% of girls carry a dildo in their bag.
Cheers!
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You really hit the wank bang on the head. I always wondered why my insane Aunt had hairy palms. I also wondered why those creepy aunts were always so interested in boys dicks and what they did with it. Never heard any uncle telling little gilrs not to masturbate. Probably they themselves were not sure that girls did play with themselves. There were stories about the different pills sold in the so called sex clinics or ‘Shahi Dawakhana’. The whole of Mumbai - Delhi railway track is lined with ads for these sexperts. ( ‘Mil hi to ley. Shadi sey pahle ya baad me. khoi hui taakat’). It is a pathetic display of ignorance and gullibilty. The acne, losing semen in shit, the night fall, angle of the dick, the size of your balls, white discharge or so called “leucorrhea”, total ignorance about female sexuality and almost all the physical and mental weaknesses attributed to other wise a glorious past time!
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would like to ask one thing guys.when do boys usualy start doing the thing.
i am trying to know sort of ideal age.
my son is soon going to be a tenager and would like to know when i should tell him about it.
i started it at 12 and half.
and you?
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NILANJAN Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 3:24 pm
I STARTED IT JUST AT TIME AT 14.
BUT TELL ME, HAVE YOUR ELDERS EVER TOLD YOU WHEN TO START IT OR HOW TO START IT. IT JUST HAPPENS. WHO KNOWS YOUR SON HAS ALREADY SATRTED IT.
BETA BAAP SE EK KADAM JO AGE HOTA HAI.
HAPPY SHAGGING.
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It’s better than going to a sex worker, I say go bust a nut! But make sure you dont get wrapped around with it, cant think abt anything else and cant function properly in front of a female. I mean some guys go home and masturbate rather than talk to the girl. For gods sake, you are gonna imagine her to be naked whike you jerk off, might as well talk to her and see if you can have her join you.
Till then flog that dolphin.
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Deb Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Well, my friend, it’s never that simple is it - “talk to her and see if you can have her join you.”. The ‘joining’ comes with a load of emotional baggage, and you can’t expect every man to have the stomach for that all the time.
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Saurav Ganguly Reply:
August 3rd, 2009 at 9:15 pm
well yea, what do you suggest in that case ?
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Deb Reply:
August 5th, 2009 at 4:09 pm
The answer is in the last sentence of your original comment.
The dorks in the agony aunt columns know everything…..
their call sign is is ..wank wank, wink wink, wank wank, wink wink………!! =:)
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just compare this blog with the other blogs…………….u’ll notice the difference,as to how many ppl have given their opinions.
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other blogs of vijay or other bloggers?
on this,comments are not much and i feel very limited number of people read it.
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i meant other blogs…..
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I wonder the saying ” apna haath Jagganath” had some sexual connotations…
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Im surprised no one has said the usual ” Masturbation is against Indian culture” speech yet. Just like everything else, some baba , maulvi, priest or some other conservative imbecile will try to preach and say how everything is against our culture. A Big FU to those people from me and my penis
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