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The Tyranny Of Size
A Question For Men: How many times has this happened to you? You’re both getting ready to go out. You’re ready and waiting, she’s still debating what to wear. She’s in front of a mirror, slight frown in place, trying out a new dress - and then another. And then suddenly, she turns around, looks at you with a complete naked vulnerability and asks that dreaded question: “Am I looking fat?”
A Question For Women: How many times has this happened to you? You’re lying in bed in a post-coital haze of happiness. He’s lying beside you, cuddling for a moment – and then reaching for a cigarette. You can sense he is anxious. He throws off the bed sheet covering his body and looks at you with a complete naked vulnerability and asks you the male equivalent of the dreaded “Am I looking fat” question: “What do you think about my penis size?”
I’m wagering more women ask the “fat” question, than men the “penis” question. But that’s only because men aren’t really trained to bring out their “sexual insecurities” out in the open. For all the reassurances from urologists, sex therapists and their partners that it’s not the size of the boat but how they captain it that matters, guys can’t help but wonder: Does size matter? And more importantly: Do I measure up? It’s an incessant thing in the back of their heads - a constant preoccupation/neurosis with penis size that keeps coming back to haunt. Freud was completely wrong - it’s not women who suffer from penis envy - but men.
Some of this neurosis has to do with the sneaking suspicion that women are lying when they keep saying size doesn’t matter - when, in fact, it does and they know it too! But mostly the neurosis feeds on the current “super-size me” consumer society and the endless penis enlargement advertisements that end up in your inbox. And it is this fascination with size that has made it possible and even necessary for certain men to pursue the ever-larger penis (by guiltily answering some of those ads) - just as some women become obsessed with creating bigger breasts.
Let’s face it — men today can pump up their pecs and abs.They can strip almost every ounce of body fat, train the fast-twitch muscle fibers in their calves. But society’s approval of male body transformation stops at changing the size of your penis. From the very first realisation of inadequacey, men are told to be happy with what they’re born with. They can’t help but wonder - why should they?
Men feel size matters for women
Sixty-five years ago Alfred Kinsey, the father of sexology, decreed that phallic dimensions between five and seven inches were within the great continuum known as “average” - but that hasn’t helped much either. Men either scoff, or grow pale when Kinsey’s average dimensions are discussed. Worse, there’s no word on whether women are happy with Kinsey’s “average dimensions.” Besides, contradictory reports abound with hints that averages change with race. We all know the “myth” about black men - but what about Indian men. Well….just look up Wikipedia on penis size. It mentions an Indian Council of Medical Research study in Mumbai that states… “about 60% of Indian men have penises which are between three and five centimeters shorter than international standards…” Yikes! How’s that to fuel your neurosis?
So are men destined to burn forever in penis purgatory? I don’t really know. But what I can do is add a happy footnote. While surfing through the Internet, I came across some hard statistics on the sale of sex toys for women. It seems a large-sample study showed that the most popular model measures six inches long and 1¼ around and is selling like hot cakes. Anything bigger or wider, it seems, hardly sells at all.
There. I hope that made things better!
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Loading ...Posted by Vijay Thapa on Monday, April 27, 2009 at 10:01 pm
Filed under Between The Sheet · Tagged Alfred Kinsey, Neurosis, penis enlargement, penis size
Well, i think you are right when you say that the size does matter.
For men, it’s the looks which matter, i think for women it’s the size.
you know this is one of my favourite blogs.
Here you strike a fine balance between candidness and obscenity.
Quite smartly, you have never crossed the threshold of latter.
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 28th, 2009 at 4:18 pm
Tks Harish!
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Kamal Asnani Reply:
May 6th, 2009 at 7:07 am
As a man, i can verify and give proof , and why not just accept the fact men. SIZE DOES MATTER when it comes to sex.
Not saying that it’s ALL that matters neither saying that nothing else matter. Everything adds up !! Emotions, love, money, the use of the organ, the foreplay, enivironment, the technique etc etc..but when you need some good stretching and good probing of an ******* / cul-de-sac, nothing can substitue what a thicker longer probe can do as compared to a thin small short probe. The pain and stuffing you get from a fuller prober, definitely satsifies more than you wishing it was fuller thicker deeper, when you realise theres spaces left out and especially if you ve had bigger before then its worse. You ll want and need the bigger stuffing sooner then later no matter what !
I can personally vouch for this !!! I ve seen, felt, heard, witnessed, experienced this time and time again for and from both the sexes so its for sure !!!!
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As a woman I will come out with the cold, hard facts.
Size DOES matter.
Anyone who tells you different is just being polite. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 28th, 2009 at 11:08 am
There you go again Aghori Girl — feeding our neurosis.
Tell me though, doesn’t love or passion carry the day when you find out the man you love isn’t a mighty oak but a sapling? Don’t emotions count?
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Vijay this is hysterical….hahaha……very funny. And completely true — the neurosis part. As kids in school, I remember a classmate in complete anxiety over his penis size. He once gathered his guts and asked a friend of mine if two inches was normal. The friend with a straight face said :”I’m not sure, but I myself am eight inches.” Poor chap, he couldn’t sleep for many days. Though the good thing is today, after so many years, he can laugh about it. He’s happily married, has kids and lives a full life. So penis size is actually something you worry about when you’re young and forget when you’re middle-aged.
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Hahaaa!!! Great one!!
Maybe size matters, maybe it doesnt. Certainly, after some time, it doesnt matter.
As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks.
I would side with the advocates of durability & duration.
After all, a good carpenter is known by his craft, not by his tools (Pun intended)!!
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And I always thought that a well oiled Maruti Omnibus was better non functional Ashok Leyland bus. Some of the hard porn do create an inferiority complex in a new induct. By the way is Condy trying to sum up or suggest the length and the breadth of the matter? Talking of sizes and shapes remind me of two limmericks. They are not mine and lifted ad verbum from the anthology.
“A daring young doctor named Edison
Decided old standards to jettison.
He measured men’s tools
By linguistical rules,
And established new canons of medicines.”
“A mathematician named Hall
Has a hexahendronical ball,
And the cube of its weight
Times his ******, plus eight,
Is his phone number - for exact size give a call”
Vijay, if Venky and his ilk come to power they is going to roast us alive !!
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 30th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Nutsure — we’ll just have to go out in a blaze of glory
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awesome condi pic!
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 30th, 2009 at 2:35 pm
I like it too.
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No personal experience I am sure. R would never ask you “Am I fat”. She is seriously petite.
Can comment on the other insight
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I have always wanted to know if men anwwer the truth when we ask them whether we are fat or do they lie. Also how important is a woman’s figure for a man when having sex? I mean is it more what the woman DOES that excites him or is her appearance and toned thighs/flat stomach most important? Does personality enter the equation? Does cellulite matter? Does a man have better sex with a woman with a model like figure?
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I have always wanted to know if men answer the truth when we ask them whether we are fat or do they lie. Also how important is a woman’s figure for a man when having sex? I mean is it more what the woman DOES that excites him or is her appearance and toned thighs/flat stomach most important? Does personality enter the equation? Does cellulite matter? Does a man have better sex with a woman with a model like figure?
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 30th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Naomi — I lie all the time
If you ever get the answers to all these questions let me know — will fuel my blog for some time, I’m sure.
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Atul Reply:
May 1st, 2009 at 4:36 pm
I was hoping someone would have responded to Naomi’s questions by now. So much for Indian male squeamishness.
Naomi, here is one set of responses for you, and Vijay, I hope this does fuel your blog!!
Question - I have always wanted to know if men answer the truth when we ask them whether we are fat or do they lie.
Answer - Damned if we do, damned if we dont. So divert attention to something like, “you are finaly wearing those earrings xyx (or I) gave you?” The normal response is a delighted ” you noticed!!”, leaving us to survive till the next time the question is asked.
Question - Also how important is a woman’s figure for a man when having sex?
Answer - Purely dependent upon the level of desperation at that point of time….. Married men have lesser choice, and bachelors are too worried about what Vijay mentioned in this blog. But having said that, who wouldnt want a Pamela Anderson?
Question - Is it more what the woman DOES that excites him or is her appearance and toned thighs/flat stomach most important?
Answer - Unquestionably, it is what the woman does…..
Question - Does cellulite matter?
Answer - Not if it is something good to hold on to!
Question - Does a man have better sex with a woman with a model like figure?
Answer - What would you mean by better sex?
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Naomi Reply:
May 6th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
Hey Thanks
Makes a lot of sense.
In case its of interest to all the men out there -
women are far less obsessed with men’s figures than men are. yes we want them to be reasonably toned and slim-ish - but that is it. Massively worked out biceps and chests are not necessary and a thin guy is perfectly cool with me….
By better sex I dont know what I mean actually. I guess a woman is always paranoid as to whether she is “good at sex”…
I have heard guys say that they have slept with really stunning women and they were “rubbish in bed.” Not quite sure what they meant.
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Atul Reply:
May 7th, 2009 at 11:24 am
Hee Hee.
Do the women really hit the big O?
Now that should be an interesting topic……
rakesh Reply:
May 7th, 2009 at 2:00 pm
naomi,i thought u wud also say something abt size
Raju Reply:
July 7th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
If clitoris and not vaggina is source of excitement for women, my question is “Does Peniss Matter?”
you’ve got a fan. that rice pic is dope :D.
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Vijay Jung Thapa Reply:
April 30th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
Tks Kaa!
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Atul Reply:
May 1st, 2009 at 12:11 pm
There is an interesting email doing the rounds call “then & now”, (i.e. bush & obama). The first part is condi rice pic, and then is michelle obama wih her hands about a foot apart. The expression on her face is brilliant.
If you have the pic, so put it up for all to enjoy.
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Nutsure Reply:
May 1st, 2009 at 1:03 pm
Ominus signs for the global meltdown !!
vijay……. jeeper to sex guru ?
http://www.samilm.blogspot.com
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As a man, i can verify and give proof , and why not just accept the fact men. SIZE DOES MATTER when it comes to sex.
Not saying that it’s ALL that matters neither saying that nothing else matter. Everything adds up !! Emotions, love, money, the use of the organ, the foreplay, enivironment, the technique etc etc..but when you need some good stretching and good probing of an ******* / cul-de-sac, nothing can substitue what a thicker longer probe can do as compared to a thin small short probe.
I can perosnally vouch for this !!!
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As a man, i can verify and give proof , and why not just accept the fact men. SIZE DOES MATTER when it comes to sex.
Not saying that it’s ALL that matters neither saying that nothing else matter. Everything adds up !! Emotions, love, money, the use of the organ, the foreplay, enivironment, the technique etc etc..but when you need some good stretching and good probing of an ******* / cul-de-sac, nothing can substitue what a thicker longer probe can do as compared to a thin small short probe. The pain and stuffing you get from a fuller prober, definitely satsifies more than you wishing it was fuller thicker deeper, when you realise theres spaces left out and especially if you ve had bigger before then its worse. You ll want and need the bigger stuffing sooner then later no matter what !
I can personally vouch for this !!! I ve seen, felt, heard, witnessed, experienced this time and time again for and from both the sexes so its for sure !!!!
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its sounding very convincing opinion from kamal,but i feel otherwise.i mean suppose there is no tender emotions,and it is neccessary thing to do,its less of torture in such a scenario,and in case lot of tender feelings are there,these will replace the joyous pain.i have also had lot of experiences and though endowed with nice thick machine myself,most of the time,frank response from partners had been:it wud have been more nice if it wud’ve been a lil less thick.about aghori girl,i doubt if she is authentic female.hope my views are understood in right perspective.
to end the post i just wish to add that there are many alternatives to penetrative sex as well and many of these are more pleasing and soothing.
on a lighter side,and am experiencing myself lately,in the current age of economic downturn,the poor thing hardly get to stand firmly between the feet,oops legs.so the alternatives are more likely to be successful in providing the enjoyment.
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what is condi suggesting by the way?this size ok for me?or–what!!!!only this much and ur trying to woo me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Vijay…we make *optimum* use of whatever we’ve got…we are soon to become the most populous nation no
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