Criticism is like a bitter pill that helps you recover
One who knows how to take criticism knows the art of life and death. Criticism tests one’s maturity and the ability to improve and do better in life. The best of friends at times could be one’s worst enemies because they will be blind to your weaknesses.
Your enemy gives you an opportunity to show that you can be a good person and magnanimous even under adverse and trying circumstances.
Most of us take criticism in a negative way and try to give back in the same coin. That is doing yourself great harm; and shows you are not in a position to understand yourself as well as the person who is critical of you. Criticism may come as a bitter pill but it could prove good for you. As Winston Churchill rightly said, ”Criticism may not be agreeable, but it necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
If we hit back negatively, then we will be no better than the person who tries to run you down. He has a problem and wants to pass on the problem on to you. And he succeeds the moment you try to duplicate his behavior. None of you is a winner; both are losers because the “negativity” will pull you both down further. No success by force or contrived manner remains a permanent success. It will be like a palace of sand likely to fall with the first blow of the wind.
Perhaps all of us love to be praised; and only a few of us love to be criticised. There is nothing wrong with a “shower of praise” by our well-wishers. What is wrong is that one tends to “get bloated” after a shower of public praise. And therein lies the first step to downfall.
Norman Vincent Peale, the author of The Power of Positive Thinking, had this to say, “The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” That only means that if one knows how to handle, criticism is by far better than praise.
The moral: One who tries to avoid criticism is a person who tries to shirk any work of importance. He says nothing and does nothing; and as someone had said, he “becomes nothing”!