About P P Wangchuk
The meaning of success may differ from person to person. Some of us may take the opposite of failure as success. But at times you may feel you have neither failed nor succeeded. In a way, you could call that success because there are no failures in your life.
But if you are the kind of person who owns failure and analyses it, then you are already a winner; because as they say, failure is the first step to success. True, you have to take failure in the right spirit like those great achievers in history who took it as a challenge and not as defeat.
The most recent example of such a success is that of WhatsApp owners: Brian Acton’s job application with social media giant Twitter was rejected in 2009. But that hardly hit him; instead he took it as an opportunity to do better things in the days ahead. A few months later, he got another jolt when his job application was rejected by Facebook too. This time he was determined all the more to prove that he can do and will do. He twitted: “What if Facebook turned me down. It comes as a great opportunity to connect with some fantastic people. Looking forward to life’s next adventure.”
And, true to his word, his next adventure was teaming up with another one of his mindset—his Yahoo colleague Jan Koum. Together, they built in less than four years what we know today as WhatsApp that found Facebook as a buyer for a mindboggling sum of $ 19 b recently.
What is the moral? Failures have seeds of success in them; you have to take it as a challenge. Just as Acton and Koum took a calculated risk, they could achieve more than they thought they could.
Many a time, failure happens not because of your ‘inability’ but because of the inability of the recruiter to see the potential in you. They usually look for “brilliant but normal” candidates. Any sign of ‘not-being-normal’ in you can surely get you a rejection letter. Actually, it is that ‘abnormality’ in you that can make the whole difference between high achievement and failure. A brilliant guy with normal attitude and approach towards life can never get him even a footnote in history. His brilliance may merely help him have a smooth run in life but it will go unnoticed with his last breadth.
As Edwin Louis Cole says, “Successful people recognise crisis as a time for change — from lesser to greater, smaller to bigger.” Most of us fail at one point or the other; but many of us get propelled by failures. What is needed is that one must see that failure coming to you as a challenge to get eked onto doing higher things that make a real difference in life.
It is work-life balance in tact that makes you feel you are blessed and have the feeling that all is well with you and with the world. The work-life equation is very delicate and the two support each other in a manner that brings success.
Life is short in the sense that so many things one wants to do remains undone. And for those who do not believe in the life hereafter, the urgency to do things quickly presses all the more. True, such people are hugely outnumbered by those who believe that there is indeed life hereafter.
Those who are successful have the quality of the art of life to see that everything in life is going on in the right combination and direction. Robin Abrahams, in his book, ‘Manage Your Work, Manage Your Life’, says successful people carefully combine work and home so as not to lose themselves, their loved ones or their foothold on success. And those who do this effectively involve their families in work decisions and activities.
Gary Keller has this to say, “Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls— family, health, friends, integrity — are made of glass. If you drop any of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”
The highlight here is on the importance of achieving a fine balance between your profession and home. One who has a happy family life will invariably have a happy professional life. That is why you may have a great job; but that does not mean that you can afford to ignore your personal life. If you do that, sooner or later, you will meet with ruins. And then you will have neither a good life nor a good home. That is why we are told by our gurus time and again that we will never be satisfied by work alone if we don’t have a satisfied life.
Michael Thomas Sunnarberg says a true balance between life and work comes when you start knowing that your life activities are integrated, not separated. In other words, life has to be treated in a holistic manner with the right proportion of all activities at home and office.
The obvious: If you have ideas, you have a great future. That is because ideas are like seeds that carry in them the promise of giving life in its grandest way. Thus, in today’s world, the importance of ideas demands greater space in our lives.
The world has shrunk but the world of ideas has expanded proportionately. It is an idea that leads to changes, good or bad, depending on the kind. Ideas are at the very base of what has happened and, more importantly, what is going to happen. It is like a seed that comes up and blossoms into a beautiful flower or a majestic plant that gives us so many things like oxygen, food, shade and a myriad of other things that make our life comfortable and worth-living.
American computational social scientist, Prof. Alex Pentland, wonders about the magic that ideas can play and help us make life’s journey a wonderful one. His book, Social Physics: How Good Ideas Spread, gives us food for wondering what if we all stop generating ideas. But for ideas, can we be in a position to create social structures that are “cooperative, productive and creative?”
The spread of ideas, during the last decade, because of networking and social media, has made it extremely easy for us to get access and “sieve the bad from the good” and use them productively in a manner of our own choice and liking.
You have a choice and, as Pentland says, today we can form virtual crowds within minutes, giving us a way to interact with millions of people all over the world with different cultures and backgrounds. And what is more beautiful is that the next morning, you can get to “meet and interact” with a new kind of crowd, altogether different in their ways and outlook towards issues, particularly life and death. And we stand to become richer in all ways of life. Surely, we are living in a blessed world if we know how to ‘harness” and operate on ideas.
Gone are the days when you could remain comfortably confined within your small family circle; the purpose of life today has expanded to manage and “develop a social physics that extends economic and political thinking by including not only competitive forces but also exchanges of ideas, information, social pressure and social status in order to fully explain human behaviour.”
The fact that ideas can make or mar anything was very well defined by Victor Hugo, “No army can withstand the strength of an idea whose time has come.”
Who does not want to be happy and peace of mind? A silly question? Maybe, because each one of us wants to be happy. But the question is: If you want to be happy, do you care to mind and work on the ‘tools’ to be happy? Not all of us, one can argue with confidence. Why? Because most of us are unhappy most of the time; and that shows we don’t care enough to be happy. [Read more]
If only we could learn to listen, we would be far wiser and most of life’s problems would disappear. Listening to others carefully as well as to nature and its call can give us immense respite from tension and day-to-day headaches. [Read more]