Shoaib-Sania story: Let’s get the quantum right

Should we give publicity to lunatics?

Mr. Sanghvi, those who don’t agree with your views are lunatics. Serious or joking?

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“Everyone and his dogs seem to have an opinion on how the media is covering Sania’s wedding. So here are my two bits.”

So Mr.Sanghvi agrees that he is one of the dogs. What a nut!!!

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Why aren’t you accusing the mullahs who have opposed this marriage? There has hardly been any Hindu groups commenting on it. Whats your problem with Hindus? You criticize people. But have a fair play towards everyone. And you are just adding to the pile.

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Where is Ayesha? Why she is hiding and commenting? If she is clean and if she tell the truth why don’t she catch shaob and slap him after all he is her husband? Why we haven’t heard anything about shoab marriage with ayesha in any news paper or shoab girl friend ayesha after all he is a popular cricket star? And why shoab is hiding fake Ayesha photo. This is really silly case. Rich peoples want to show off how rich they are and how popular they are and just to popularize themselves they come up with this evil thought, so that media will interrogate them and every sensible people will learn who the hell he is or she is , this is the only reason why Ayesha keep barking like a mad dogs and shoab roam like a stray dog in the street of hyderabad.

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An advice to “Community Leaders:” This is one such situation where community leaders and elders need to intervene and try to resolve the matter between Shoib and Ayesha and between the two families. Even though there are laws governing the marriage, the matter of marriage and family and all the subtle hurts and their intricacies are handled only in a humane way by caring community elders and not by a rash and heartless “law.” Let us wish well to both the families and let the media focus on some other issues – e.g., the Maoist violence – that is an issue needing awareness among the people and not the Ayesha-Shoaib-Sania’s personal lives.

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Again stretching your reactions to the reactions by a bit.

Problem was not the quantum I believe, your article was not that good on quality this time. No where in your article you mentioned that a law was/maybe being broken and gave certificates to Sania+Shoaib. We don’t live in a newspaper, we live in a soceity which is supposed to be governed by certain laws. If people like you start spearheading the anarchist ‘chalta hai’ lobby then what will happen to less sane people in media? You have no idea I have been reading your articles for over 20 years now, tho I’m not 30 yet. So you can assume that in my family, and many other families too, some people will be reading your articles.

At the most we wanted our police/judiciary/admin to look into the matter. Here also, you have given Sania a character certificate. To me she comes across as a marriage breaker second wife, desperate for some man by hook or by crook. She and her relatives are helping Shoaib break the law and any good lawyer can get Shoaib, Sania, her family and everyone organizing/attending this marriage arrested.

Again, as per Indian law a marriage is valid once it is entered ‘under any circumstances’. Be it a child marriage, or a marriage done after kidnapping the bride/groom(yes it is true), it stands valid once it is entered. Shoaib accepted the marriage was performed, many muslim bodies have also said that marriage stands valid. I myself have witnessed my frnd’s sister getting married on phone to some guy in Saudi. Shoaib and Ayesha were not leaving together and had no love lost can be a good ground for divorce, but marriage can’t be annulled on this basis. So Sania, unfortunately, comes across as a ‘marriage breaker second woman’. I already know three couples who changed the names of their daughters from Sania to something better after her ‘guy-chaning-as-clothes-marriage-breaking’ stunts. In this episode everyone is lying and fooling people. Disgusting. And in the name of being open minded/world class/liberal/democratic we can’t support everything weird.

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Finally! Somebody with some sense of sanity!!

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If this you call media coverage, Shri Vir Sanghvi, then you have not seen Tiger wood coming out Sex coverage yesterday. Evrey new’s channel including B.B.C and all major news paper covered it.I wait your comment, “BALLS ARE IN YOUR COURT AND PITCH.”

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Nicely written! putting things in perspective.

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C’mon Man !
You seem to have one strong opinion or another on everything ! 1. You are media (which you are passionately criticising). 2. Are you a dog yourself ? (as you are calling everyone else with an opinion). 3. Boy you stink – as always ! Stop being so cynical and get back to your recipes on Bharva Kulcha ! At least they’d be some takers of that. You are way off – very articulate, but you are shockingly off in your analysis ! Sania-Shoaib thing is entertainment for the masses – treat it for what it is. Stop being Dr. Judgemental or Mr. Righteous !

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Now Mr Sanghvi Will teach us what to do and what not to do…

What have u learnt after reading the comments on ur past few articles i guess nothing…

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Dear Vir

Are you following what is happening in Pak about this.If Yes, How you cannot have the same emotions as other normal Indians ( like she should not play for India..)…The way Pak is celebrating….I guess they may declare April 15 as their national Day

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lol @ the bias journalism here who just want to keep up the tempo.

Ayesha never produced a video photoage or pictures at first place. Its on the record itself plus the one pic where Shoaib standing with that fat pumpkin is the one whom he thought her as Maha( elder sis/coz/friend) of her which he hasn’t denied.

Lol @ evidence …total bias.

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Vir Singhvi is the Rush Limbaugh of India. Without reading the complete article, one can easily assume it will be glorifying (worshipping) the Gandhi dynasty, trashing the Hindu religion and silent on any other religions issues, blame every problem inlcuding weather on Hinduism, He is a typical closet self-hater.

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Let MS. Gill, the UPA Minister of Sports, set the quantum right; by announcing that Sania will not be allowed to play for India any more after her marriage with Shoaib.That way every quantum, including media coverage, will be set right by itself, and nobody’s ( including Rajeev’s ) dog will bark in any spectrum !!!

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Mr Non communalitst Vir Sangvi.
How do you say
“Is Ayesha telling the truth?
Probably not. Her story is bizarre. But then I doubt very much if Shoaib is telling the whole truth either. Even his story strains credulity.”
So are you saying both are liars? All Shoaib did was sleep with his Maha apa not Ayesha?

Instead of saying Ayaesha is “Probably not telling the truth”, why do you not simply say you do not know? Communal sob you are!

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What I have been tweeting for the last couple of days is that this is, indeed, a valid story. This case can set 1) a legal precedent for phone marriages and establish legal guidelines as to what consitutes a valid marriage. 2) Help leaders of various religious faiths to learn that such a thing may happen and how they could handle it. 3) It should raise a social awareness of how we see marriage in our culture.

In addition this is very interesting (almost academic) sociologically for the following reasons:

-Everywhere else in the world, a “phone marriage” (even signing papers afterwords) would be dismissed a prank or child’s play. A laughable event. However, Indian sensibilities and values place a lot of validity on marriage conducted over the phone. Does the arranged marriage concept have anything to do with this?

-Siddiqui’s are a wealthy family. Would a middle class family be able to create such a circus with lawyers and media press releases?

-We need to examine the role of possible mental illness of this woman. She may suffer from some sort of Borderline Personality Disorder or Delusional disorder. And, as families go, the dad and mom are co-dependents. They are willing to go the distance to facilitate, protect, support and hide their daughters whims.

-We need to consider that, at 20, Shoaib was like any red-blooded male who fell in love with a photo/an image. (Playboy magazine and “girl of the day” photos in newspapers are popular for a reason).

-Or, perhaps Shoaib was seduced by the wealth of the Siddiqui’s and married their daughter for financial security. Remember, he was not famous at the time. Again, it was a “telephone” marriage.

-The few photos that I’ve seen of the woman, Ayeesha/Maha apa/whatever, validate Shoaib’s version of events to a certain extent.

-Finally, there is a huge political element to this. a) Look at all the anti-Pakistan comments coming from Indian readers. Shoaib is guilty because he is Pakistani, lets never mind the ridiculous nature of the allegations. b) Even Preity Zinta had a difficult time filing an FIR in her support of Shandar Amrohi. So how is it that Mr. Siddiqui got an FIR filed almost instantaneously and Shoaib’s passport seized with the investigation being undertaken by several Police teams. Hmmm Mr. Siddiqui is well-connected and/or Police are influenced by the nationality of Shoaib.

It seems fashionable to media bash. Especially, now with tweeting and blogging.

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Vir Sanghvi has played the ubiquitous “foreign” card. The man who started the Bombay magazine at the tender age of 22, now resorts to tabloid journalism. Vir, there is more equity in food shows. Stick to it. Just because it’s a global trend, doesn’t mean we have to ape it. Other than that I do not disagree with the rest of your thoughts.

Anyway, best of wishes to the potential bride and groom.

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Begaani shaadi mein abdullah diwana !! What a waste of peoples’ time and attention.

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Sanghvi is the only editor of a newspaper who has time to comment/write articles on tabloid news. Personally, I find Indian Express newspaper the best in terms of news and editorial material. It appears to be impartial. I hope Vir Sanghvi never joins Indian Express. He seems to be a paid agent of few politicians.

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A long message from job less guy (Vir Sangvi)….

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Vir,
You cant blame media coz both r known sports persons . But it should not have been taking so much time and space. Shoeb and Ayesha are hiding certain facts anyway. It shows how cheap these people are really. If they are from ” respectable ” families as Sania claims, this should not have happened.
Vir, Sania can choose anyone. But dont you think, it is ill timed when our great neighbour is bent on sending terrorists to India on a day today basis, 26′11 massacre, jawans are fighting them everyday at the borders, Pak is exporting counterfeit notes and drugs……Theres is a national feeling, Vir. We love India. Every Indian knows that Hyd, Bhatkal, Malappuram and Kasargod in Kerala are all centres of certain peoples who support Pakis in destroying India. Sincerely, media shouldnt have spent so much space and time on this. Just like a muslim, we are also proud to be Hindus, Vir.Yes some has crossed the borders of decency in their comments, its absurd.

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I love the massala gossip……..a nice break from bloody politicians

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Vir is an agent of Pakistan, if not why he always support Pakistan. Anti national.

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SINGHVI U NEED TO BE FAIR ENOUGH IN THIS VERY SENSITIVE ISSUE.IF UR DAUGHTER OR SISTER WERE IN THIS SITUATION,I AM SURE U WOULD HAVE NOT DARED TO COMMENT AS INDO PAK ISSUE. IT SEEMS UR MAKING FUN OF WOMEN’S SENSITIVE ISSUE. BE SENSIBLE ENOUGH BEFORE COMMENTING.

UNIFORM CIVIL CODE IS THE ONLY ANSWER TO SUCH SITUATIONS.THOSE WHO OBJECT TO SUCH LAW,NEVER SUFFER LIKE WOMEN ,AS AYESHA NOW SUFFERING. IT WILL BE GREAT HELP TO WOMEN.WHAT’S STOPPING SUCH LAW? IS THE GOVT BOWING TO MALE FOLK ?

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I have heard in good old days media used to rouse public reaction, generate a kind of awakening , today we have gossip, speculation, movie relases, cricket , senseless debates on TV getting us no where.

By the way SRK ( the guy always ready to take off his pants in shaadis for doe) release got more publicty than Sania Shoaib by a commi media run from new delhi.

It is Media that has to set standards, and decide how much and what to report. I doubt if there are any standards, guidlelines on this, none of us want far too excess coverage of any event esp. people’s personal lives. By the way guys like Vir, Sayeed Naqvi, are doing just fine.

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Mr.Sanghvi, for over sometime that I have been reading your articles, not even once have I found them knowledgeable, entertaining, WORTH. infact I have always seen people crticising your articles for even what I believe they are worth for.
One does not expect such quality from a perosn of your caliber and why does every second article of yours has to carry a baseless criticism of Hindus, why are u so anti..

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Mr Sanghvi why do you always have to see a snake whenever you see a rope in a not fully lighted room. Why do you have to bring in Hindutva in every motivated, publicity seeking story. I thought editors are enlightened people with unbiased minds.But you belie that hope and damage your own credibility. Or is it that you get paid for writing such rubbish?

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The purported Nikaah of 2002 had inherent flaws. 2 parties were not present physically at one place and at one point in time. They did not have their respective witnesses either. They did not sign the Nikah-Nama at the same time. There is a geography/time gap. This is not allowed in a Nikaah. It has to be one-shot spot-on. Point No. 2 : The Mehr (Dower) of Rs. 500-. is amusing. What value has Rs. 500-. In 2002 ? This is circumstantial proof, enough to convey that it was a prank. Ayesha-Maha controversy., self-signing in the given place does not can never legitimize Nikaah conducted in parts. I could have won this case, hands-down. But of course., it would have taken its time., and sullied reputations, real or purported. It would have been a dirty trial, but I would have won hands down. I brushed my Muslim Personal Law Case Law., and was ready with my brief.

But come to think of it., resolution out-of-court is always the best option. It saves time. Saves what little that has been left as regards reputation issues are concerned. Most importantly, TIME is of essence in this case. Maha (Ayesha)’s ghost would have followed Shoaib for ever (in spite of winning this case). It is good Shoaib got rid of his earlier marriage (which was a flawed Nikaah, like the $5 marriages you have in Vegas for fun)., and gave a victory to Maha [Ayesha] . Of course, Ms. Maha must have extracted her pound of flesh, purported to be Rs. 4 crores.

So Maha wins divorce and Shoaib wins Sania April 15, 2010. Congratulations to both. Each got what he/she wanted. Jai Ho. Let the marriage celebrations now begin. There must be a Classical Hyderabadi wedding – Shoaib in Sherwani – Sania in Khada Dupatta with Jadavi Lach`cha. Let the wedding songs begin !

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U had more confidence on Shoaib.In the process of arguing u had turned it anti hindutva !! u being a columnist since a long,why did ur wisdom failed u ? Was it necessary to look through the prism of religion ? Bcuz that it involved a muslim woman’s stand on her right,so it has to be tuned as anti hindu ?Don’t u think by this sort of comment, u group yourself among pseudo secularist like congress,Lalu etc.What compel u to give it a anti hindu color ? U proved ur self no different from the pseudo secularists.View of a columnist should be responsible as it compels people to have an opinion on an issue,which impacts society at large.

I have to doubt about ur credential as a standard and upright columnist from today onwards.

Now that Shoaib signed the divorce paper and acknowledged his marriage to Ayesha,don’t u think it would have been an impossible battle for a normal women ? Its for this reason Uniform Civil Code has to be implemented in india.I hope u would ponder over it impartially, without pseudo secularist lens.

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Now I am waiting for the story on Sania-Shoaib honeymoon from Sanghvi.
The question is whether Shoaib is going to use condom or Sania will take pills or will they have unprotected sex.

I am excited.

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Vir. There is so much hatred in the comments posted below. This is so very ugly. , and deplorable. Most of it is due to personal frustration(s) and jealousy. One must be happy at other people’s happiness. I have penned a few lines, commenting on the wonderful column you wrote, which is so full of wisdom and reflects your ability for in-depth analysis and grasp of contemporary history.

Badi dhoom gajarr say… Aaya Rey.. Nausha.. Ameer`on kaa..
Jaaama jo tera.. Laakh kaa; Kalgi hazaar`on kee
Baandho baandho Doolhe-Raja.. Sehra Rey..

Let Hyderabadi Marriage Songs begin. It must be a purely CLASSICAL Hyderabadi Shaadi. The Doolha in Sherwani.. Saafa (Shamlaa)… Mogra Sehra.. (Classical Hyderabadi Sehra… with Baghli., Haar., and Sehra)… atop a White Horse… Band-Baaja… and 500 boys dancing in the front playing the DAFF (Dufflee).. Arabic Style Daff… Shoaib must leave Sania’s home from Jubilee Hills in an open red flower-decked car… reach Banjara Hills Post Office… or let us say… Syndicate Bank (Shangrila)… opp. the Newly Built Shopping center., which is 1 furlong from Krishna Oberoi (Venue of the Nikaah 15 April 2010., 6:30 PM). From there., he must alight a white horse… and the Baraat walks the distance (5-7 minutes walk). Security tight rakhna chaahiye… CISF services to be taken., IF NEEDED. 2 trucks of Military Police might be needed. (Military Camp at Mehdipatnam is v.close., so 2 trucks, say around 100 Jawans – armed, should be enough). As Eminent Lawyer Manik Prabhu so lovingly suggested (keeping in view the “evening time” 6:30 – 7:00 PM)., a dark navy-blue Sherwani.. with white churidaar pyjama + white saafa… would look superb… otherwise… a cream color raw-silk Sherwani and churidaar would look good too.. As regards Sania., Khada Dupatta in Motiya Colour (Peach … or Kharboozi color., as they say in Hyd… (inside of the Kharbooza).. with Jadavi Lach`cha and Karan phool.. classical look… and it must be a classical setting. Shehnai (Mangal Dhwani) at Sania’s home (for 7 days)., and also at the Hotel upon arrival of the Baraat. Allah Mubarak Karey…. AAL IZZ WELL… and AAL WILL BE WELL., God-willing.

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Rajeev : You dont call someone a “terrorist”, simply because that someone says the TRUTH., which may or may not be to your convenience. As simple as that. What Dr. C. Sridevi, Psychiatrist and Psycho-analyst has written is very true. Now i have to get blunt and let me say this to you bluntly, because you are not fit to understand decent language and nuances of langauge. Unfortunately, thru custom or tradition, whatever., the fact is:

INDIAN MALE IS A GIGOLO.

The Indian male charges “fees” from a girl / her family. At the time of marriage., he asks for a bungalow / flat / apartment / plot / 1 kg gold / clothes / utensils / car etc., as “DOWRY”. Why does he ask all these things for ? That is the price for having sex with the girl. He is using his body like a taxi. You pay the fare., and the taxi drives. This does not happen ANYWHERE in the world, even in the poorest countries like Congo, Ethopia or Chad. Men are not men if they charge “Fees” for having sex with women. If a man, any man, whatever his name, charges money or takes financial consideration from a women or her family for getting into a relationship / marrying her, that is tantamount to saying that the man is a prostitute. A male prostitute. As simple as that.

The Indian male, thru custom or tradition, call it whatever suits your sensibilities, has become a gigilo and is charging the woman with “fees” (one-shot at the time of marriage) and also full maintainence (like the maintainence charges of the apartment)., life-long. When the woman is expecting, the delivery costs to be borne by her parents. If its a baby girl, gold ornaments for the grand-daughter., if its a boy., some thing else. Then clothes. Then the birthday comes., expectation of “gifts” by the gigilo. This goes on, life-long. WHAT FOR ? Ever heard men in Italy Spain, Switzerland, China or even the poorest country of Africa like Chad doing this. No. They dont. Why ? Cuz they are “men”.

To be a man is not to have “chataak” gosht (50 grams of meat) between your legs. It means a certain display of character. Chivalry, Decency, Dignity., the ability and the quality to take care of a woman. Work hard and earn. Then Feed the woman., clothe her., have sex with her.. give her the joy of being a wife., have kids.. take care of the kids.. feed them.. educate them.. clothe them. AND IN RETURN EXPECT NOTHING from the woman (for the services rendered). That is a MAN with a capital “M”. and not a “thimble”.

A woman looks for “Chivalry” in a man. “Veer-taa”, or “Bravery”. It doesnt mean coming out with a sword. It means the ability to face the world. It measn the ability to protect his woman. It means the ability to take heat., it means the ability to display strong “nerves”. Shoaib Akhtar may have a million flaws., but he displayed chivalry. He came ALONE to Hyderabad to face the problems. Can you imagine Babu Bajrangi going to Pakistan alone., and facing the problems ! NO WAY. He will go with 5000 people in trucks armed with acid bombs., gas cylinders., swords., and trishuls., because cowards do not ., can not go alone. They go in hordes. In trucks., shouting and armed. They indulge in violence, rape and murder., only in GROUPS, because they are cowards. They are NOT men. They have a “chataak” (50 gms) gosht between their legs., but they ARE NOT MEN It is a disgrace to call them as “men”.

A man is not just a physical term. It means the ability to possess certain qualities too . If someone does not have THOSE qualities., and if someone is a beggar-for-life asking the woman (and/or her parents / brothers / mother) all her life., then that man is a gigilo. A male prostitute. As simple as that. He is not a man. That is the reason., and that is rightly the reason., that as Indian girls get educated., get exposure to the outer world., they will marry men born in diferent countries. If an Indian girl, a Hindu girl, goes abroad., sees Spanish men., sees Italian men., gets exposed to the world., do you think she will ever think about an Indian man ? Just juxtapose an Italian man or a Spanish man with his Indian counterpart. Where is the machismo. Where is the character. Indian men LACK character. They use cheap language. They are wife beaters. 99% of women suffer in India at the hands of men. The men may have degrees., but they do not have hearts., because they have been culturally conditioned to be “gigilos” and male-prostitutes.

Now go., and cut and paste this write-up by me., on all the Pakistani Sites. Chalo.

Jai Mata Di.

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Dear Krishna, I think you are getting too emotional about this. I do agree with you opinion on Sania getting married to Pakistani. As a star and prominent person she should not get into this knowing that Pakistan is giving us a hard time in terms of terrorism, Our defense expenses are so high which can be used for many other development area and only because of Pakistan we are wasting such a huge money. She is a celebrity and should think about the implication and do what is best for the nation.

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I admire Indian Tennis star Sanea Mirza, and i wished to say a few things (borrowing the words of a great writer). Here are a few lines. I study at Sorbonne, and wished to send her a book on the occasion of her wedding, but i do not have her address. hence i asked someone and they guided me to your blogpost. Sorry if its a bother. and Merci.

A few lines (albeit borrowed) :

Having the courage to take the steps we always wanted to take is the only way of showing that we trust in God.

She thought about the greatness of soul of the true sages, sages who had spent their entire life searching for an answer that did not exist, but who were not tempted to invent an answer when they realized there was none. Instead, they carried on humbly inhabiting a Universe they would never understand. The only way they could truly participate was by following their own desires, their own dreams, because that is how man becomes an instrument of God.

‘So what’s the point of looking for an answer then?’
‘We don’t look for an answer, we accept, and then life becomes much more intense, much more brilliant, because we understand that each minute, each step that we take, has a meaning that goes far beyond us as individuals. We realize that somewhere in time and space this question DOES have an answer. We realize that there IS a reason for us being here, and for us, that is enough.
‘We plunge into the Dark Night with faith, we fulfill what the ancient alchemists used to call our Personal Legend and we surrender ourselves fully to each moment, knowing that there is always a hand to guide us, and we accept it or not is entirely upto us.’

What is now proved was once only imagined.

The fish must have asked themselves how they managed to fly, these mysterious creatures who plunged into their world, then left as quickly as they entered.
The birds must have asked themselves how the creatures they fed on and that lived beneath the waves could possibly manage to breathe under water. Birds existed and fish existed. Theirs were universes that occasionally collided, but they could not answer each other’s questions. And yet both had questions, and the questions had answers.

If she were capable of asking a question, it was because, in another Universe, there was an answer. Someone knew it, even if she didn’t. she didn’t need to understand the meaning of life; it was enough to find someone who did, and then fall asleep in his arms and sleep as a child sleeps, knowing that someone stronger than you is protecting you fro all evil and all danger.

Far from diminishing their passion, this only made them live each moment as if it were their last, and the love between them had all the intensity of things that take on an eternal quality precisely because they are going to die.

However, there was a third party involved in this furious struggle. A man caught in destiny’s mysterious web, a web that neither Magi nor Witches can understand. An ordinary man, perhaps as in love with that woman as he was, a man who wanted her to be happy and to do his best for her. An ordinary man, whom Providence’s mysterious designs had thrown into the middle of this battle between a man and a woman who knew the Tradition of the Moon.

We are all masters of our own destiny. We can so easily make the same mistakes over and over. We can so easily flee from everything that we desire and which life so generously places before us. Alternatively, we can surrender ourselves to Divine Providence, take God’s hand and fight for our dreams, believing that they always arrive at the right moment.

‘For many days, I wondered if that man really had existed, or if he was an angel sent by God to teach me the secret lessons of life. In the end, I decided that he had been a real man, a man who had loved me, even if only for an afternoon, and during that afternoon, he’d given me everything he had kept to himself throughout his whole life: his struggles, his joys, his difficulties and his dreams. That afternoon I gave myself wholly as well- I was his companion, his wife, his audience, his lover. In a matter of only a few hours, I experienced the love of a lifetime.

I still think of him sometimes. I’d like to know where he is, if he found what he was looking for that afternoon, if he’s still alive, or if God took his soul. I know he’ll never come back, which is why I could love him with such strength and such certainty, because I would never lose him; he had given himself to me entirely that afternoon.’

‘it was a mistake that set the world in motion,’ said the Teacher. ‘never be afraid of making a mistake’. ‘But Adam and Eve were driven out of Paradise.’ ‘And they will return one day knowing the miracle of the heavens and of all the world. God knew what he was doing when he drew their attention to the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. If he hadn’t wanted them to eat it, he would never have mentioned it.’ ‘so why did he, then?’ ‘in order to set the Universe in motion.’

‘Never be ashamed,’ he said. ‘Accept what life offers you and try to drink from every cup. All wines should be tasted; some should only be sipped, but with others, drink the whole bottle.’
‘How will I know which is which?’
‘By the taste. You can only know a good wine if you have first tasted a bad one.’

‘I will always remember you, and you will remember me, just as we will remember the evening, the rain on the windows, and all the things we’ll always have because we cannot possess them.’

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its such a pity that a girl’s choice for her groom has come under such a scrutiny, and that too not from her family members but from the people of her own nation, thanx to indian media thats creating records to get as low and cheap as impossible.
sania has given enough to make her country proud of her, and if some how the man whom she wants to be her husband is from a country thats culturally almost similar to us but somehow is an enemy nation ( thanx to all the politicians), why are we creating such a fuss. are we the same people who made “Veer Zaara” ( movie based on kinda same subject) such a huge hit.
sania is what we call a global citizen ( thanx to her shining career), and she’s got all the freedom to choose a groom she loves no matter fro wherever it may be.
and all these hate comments above made me smile, guys in whichever corner u live in this country (must be quite remote), u’ve got internet connections so better use them for uplifting ur local thinking.

last but not the least Mr. Sanghvi, u’ve got ur numbers quite right i suppose, i liked ur analysis very much.
thanx all if u read this

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First, I don’t understand what fun some people get out of high jacking a discussion on a serious issue like the one raised here by Vir. These guys seem more like automated devices than thinking individuals, wired to utter filthy words at anyone their sensors identify as “ secular”, or “a believer in “sinful” ideas like harmony between Hindus and Muslims / lessening of tensions between India and Pakistan”. Perhaps there is a central organization controlling these guys that deploys them to various “ secular” internet forums – much the same way as the Talibani commanders assign their suicide bombers – to cause maximum disruption on the targets.
2. Secondly, several of the comments in the posts above are plainly insulting to either of the two communities ( Hindus or Muslims ) and have generated unwarranted heat , abuse and ill-feeling. In the real world, utterances like these could potentially foment communal troubles. Similarly, a few comments above are either Pak-phobic or Indo-phobic, making one wonder what good can come out of all this. Therefore, I suggest that the blog manager ( if that’s the right word for it) should consider pre -censoring all posts and deleting all comments that demean and defame other communities or nations.. We cannot possibly allow such gratuitous vilification of one another as we’ve seen above, in the name of intellectual discussion or freedom of expression. At least, it’s not civilized behaviour.
3.Finally, in his post of April 8, 3.10 PM, above, while countering an obviously offensive comment in a previous post, Supriya Shravan Kumar repeatedly “advised” the other party — as well as “all hate- monger Hidutava perverts “– to kindly read ( i quote) “Jad Adams’ new book ‘Naked Ambition’ ” , adding mysteriously that “ It’s about an Indian and his moral character”. He doesn’t however tell us who that Indian is.
Let me now clarify that the title of the book in question, by the aforesaid Jad Adams, is “MAHATMA GANDHI : The Naked Ambition” , and not just “ The Naked Ambition “ as mentioned in Supriya’s post; and also that MAHATMA GANDHI indeed is the man about whom and whose “moral character” this book is about.
However , in fact this book is what in literary circles is called a “ hatchet job” on Mahatma Gandhi; it trashes the great legacy of the Mahatma, portraying him as a man with weird ideas and unnatural urgings, as one who was thoroughly incompetent and unsuccessful in his personal life as well as on the political stage, one who only brought misery and disaster upon his country rather than save it. As such, Supriya Shravan Kumar would have us believe that the man who is regarded by most Indians regard as the Father of the Nation and by much of the world ( barring ,of course, the said Mr Jad Adams and others of his ilk) as one of the greatest men of the last century , one who showed the war-weary world the Path of Non- violence, was in fact a man of very poor “moral character “, to complete the phrase used by Supriya Shravan Kumar ! !
4.The above is yet another example of how people are prone to making most insensitive and atrocious comments on blogs, though in this case this seems to have been accomplished by carefully hiding the fact that the comment , and the book it was allegedly based upon, was about MAHATMA GANDHI.

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I wish to correct a small error in my post of yesterday, April 12 (2.35 PM). The title of Jad Adams’ book on Mahatma Gandhi referred to in paragraph 3 of my post is, actually : ” GANDHI NAKED AMBITION”.

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just a bit of objection from u mr./ms chanderkanta. its not good to call someone dishonest blindly without knowing actual facts ,so far as we can see in pics they both seem to be very much in love. only thing we can assume is that u can say that he got more what he would have thought of.

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On the issue of the coverage problem, I believe that the curiosity of the viewer himself is the reason why the TRP’s are rising and for the viewer has started thriving on the cynicism that layers celebrity weddings. And so only a handful of us are allowed to complaint about the coverage, the others who have been enjoying it as dining table conversations cannot complain if the media is doing the same.

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There is a large indian community in Hong Kong which I went to last year. Chungking mansions has some pretty good curry houses sounds similar. Well written post had me hooked from the first couple of lines.

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Hi Kesav, its been ages we are chanting good Lord’s name, but in practical we kept on falling in our morals, shouldn’t we try out a little different path now. Practical meditation seems thoughtful, modern and logical spirituality.

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nics pic ,, i dont believe that amitab in dauud

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