A distant child



Were cine star Smita Patil alive she would have killed if anyone pointed a finger at Prateik. Ofcourse Destiny did not give her time to either raise or protect her son. He was fourteen days when she died: untimely because had she agreed to go to hospital when the fever first came on, maybe things would have been different. There were two reasons why she refused to leave her house and move to hospital: one she wanted Raj Babbar, the man she blindly loved, to take a decision on whether she should go to hospital and the other she did not want to leave her new born at home: “If I go to hospital who will breast-feed him?” she argued. It is another matter that even before he turned a month she left him in other people’s hands: orphaned. Yes orphaned because Prateik grew up parentless. Raj had a family of his own, wife Nadira and two kids: one among them currently spitting venom at Prateik.

I recall that the only solution—and home—Raj had then suggested for Prateik was to send him with his parents to god forsaken Tundla, a little ahead of Agra if I am not mistaken.

Smita’s sisters, fiercely loyal to her, ofcourse would have none of it. They put their foot down and took Prateik under their care. So if Prateik says today that his aunts are everything to him, he is not off the mark. Particularly, Manya Patil, who chartered the course of his career. Smita’s mother, Vidyatai, as her peer group refers to her, brought up Prateik: something she would have done even if Smita was alive. Smita often said that she would want Prateik to be brought up the way her mother brought up Smita and her two sisters: Correct, proper and with an inbuilt value system, if I may use the term.

His grandparents put the world at his feet; his aunts dote on him yet Prateik was a child torn apart: motherless and with a father who had little time for him dividing it between his films, politics and family. I don’t grudge Raj his family responsibilities; nor do I the fact that he put children from his first marriage before he did Prateik. What I do is the ownership which Aarya,technically his half brother and a struggling actor, displays at this point in time. And worse still hits out at him.

For those who do not follow film news, here is the low down:

Prateik is reported to have told the media that he considers Abhishek Bachchan his elder brother.

This irked Aarya, who I refrain from calling his elder brother, given that he has suddenly appeared on the scene to claim a bloodline.

Aarya is reported to have said and I quote: “Next I hope he does not say that he has found a new father, now that he has found a brother in Abhishek. We have seen him doing all kinds of things for publicity. First it was getting sympathy votes in a cheap manner by using his late mother Smita Patil’s name. Then he dropped his Babbar surname insulting his father and family and now he has aligned himself with the Bachchans and got himself a big brother. I mean what is he thinking?”

I don’t know what to say to this but I will take this one by one. The first about getting “sympathy votes”. I feel sorry for Aarya’s vocabulary. Prateik is not contesting an election so the question of getting votes does not arise. He is an actor and a bright one at that, just like his mother, and is not cashing in on any sympathy. If he did, he would not have dropped the suffix Smit to his name. As a child he was named Prateiksmit, after his mother, as his dad Raj Babbar had then said in a television interview which he gave within a day of Smita’s death. Where and how Smit got dropped I do not know and how and why Babbar came along, even that I do not know.

But now Prateik is simply Prateik. He has, contrary to what the other Babbar says, Aarya to be precise, not dropped Babbar: it was a surname which I don’t think was ever his. He was always a distant child to his father.

And Aarya’s contention about Prateik using his mother’s name, I can only feel sorry for the way he thinks: more so for the relationship he must have had with his parents. For it can only be a sick mind who can think in terms of “using” one’s mother’s name. A parent’s name is a child’s identity and part of his being: it is born with him and grows with him so the question of using it does not arise. And as far as Prateik is concerned he remains Smita’s child in flesh and blood, only Smita’s and later her family’s for it is they who gave their ageing years, love, nurturing, care and protection to their daughter’s child. Left to Raj, Prateik would have been a nowhere child, playing second fiddle to his father’s children. So giving up the Babbar name which never was Prateik’s is something which he should have done much earlier. More so because it links him to alleged siblings who can stoop to the level of saying the kind of things they are saying about Prateik.

I think all this hullabaloo has something to do with Prateik having arrived as a good actor. The intense, silent, shy, introvert kid, whose childhood passion was cricket, has made it. And he did it without a struggle. Like his mother who was handpicked by Shyam Benegal, I think, to act in his film. She never looked back. Neither will Prateik much to the chagrin of Aarya who has yet to make a mark as an actor. Despite being a Babbar.

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  • Anjana

    Don’t do you have better thing to report, some news, some information, rather than somebody’s family affair. I am seriously thinking to stop reading HT, unless it sets standards to its journalists.

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    chetan seth Reply:

    Dear Anjana.. pl see my comments below.. regards.. chetan seth

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    Gul Reply:

    Anjana,

    If you have to read news, current affairs etc….BLOGS section is an incorrect page to refer to. KumKum is very good at what she writes and for Gods sake this is her “BLOG” so giver her a break!!

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    Thanks Gul. Yes blogs are not a substitute for news pages.

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  • P.Barman

    Great story and informative, Thanks.

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    Thanks Barman; glad you enjoyed it

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  • http://techcentral.in Kunal

    Interesting story. I am sure both Aarya and Prateik will cash in on the publicity they will receive from the media. I do not know who the better actor is. I have seen Dhobi Ghat, so I have unknowingly seen Prateik and he seems to be good at it. I haven’t or do not know who Aarya is as I do not watch a lot of Hindi movies.

    Funny thing…this Bollywood…at the end of the day..who cares

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    Thanks Kunal. Yes Prateik is very good in Dhobi Ghat.

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  • chetan seth

    Well done Kumkum for setting the record straight. Newspapers tend to publish what actors may claim with out checking it out, and a lot of untruth floats around, till such time as some one like you comes along and stands up to fearlesly speak out the truth. I for one will read yr blog more often now. Did not even know it exists. Anjana needs to know that this is not only about family. It is about exposing the falcity of people and the manipulation of the press for personal publicity, with complete disregard to the pain and hurt it brings to people who are involved.

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    thanks chetan. will always look forward to your comments

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  • http://- Rajeev

    This journo has habit of poking her stinking arse in other’s private affair.

    Can she also write a blog on how Nehru-Gandhi family denied rights to Varun Gandhi? That will make a better story.

    By the way Raj Babbar is in Congress, the last refuge of all the scoundrels including this chavanni chaap journalist.

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  • Nyaya

    This is as much a social issue as it is a one family issue. there are many families in India who are grappling with this second alliance. First of all Smitha Patil took the license to have a relationship with a man who was already married. She should have thought that if the man is prepared to have a relationship with her knowing he is already married what sort of a man he is. She should have thought of is a man is so low as to have a relationship with an another woman outside of his marriage what sort of respect he gave to his own family. People talk about love as if it comes like cancer and cant be controlled. That is mills and boon nonsense. Society has put boundries for a reason. Now how can anyone not be angry at the child who was not born out of wedlock through an illicit relationship. Pratek is the symbol of that relationship. Good actor or otherwise he is the result of sins of his parents and deserves sympathy. The father does not deserve to be called as father leave alone as a human being.

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    Yes nyaya, the father has a lot to explain: not only about Pretaik but about smita as well.

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  • http://Ht Roop

    How time passes I still remember the drama where raj babbar wanted custody of the little baby ! Thank god he was brought up by his maternal family ! I’m sure he will make a mark one day and live up to his mother’s name ! God bless him !

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    yes roop i am quite sure he will with blessings of well wishers and friends

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  • Mona

    Prateik is adorable, please let him be. With or without “Babbar”, he will do just fine. He is so endearing and a brilliant actor, and I wish him all the best,

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    kumkum chadha Reply:

    thanks mona. yes, god willing, he will do fine

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  • charu

    prateek is the best actor.he dont need any name.he is a superstar for us.we luv u prateek.dont listen wat oters are speaking.we luv you.

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  • varsha

    smita patil was a superstar and so is prateek.he dont need babbar name for becoming a star.prateek is just excellent.

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  • sailah

    I love prateik.he so innocent.god bless him n gve him success ameen.xx

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