The book I never want to read
Nadeem Aslam has another book out. Oh bleep. I’m always reluctant to start a book by Nadeem Aslam. That’s because he writes incredibly sad books. They’re heart-wrenching. They’re so poignant that you can’t even cry. You just crumple up inside.
You just collapse into yourself because they remind you that you’re South Asian and being South Asian, you’re part of a certain way of life, and even though you live in what is arguably one of the least repressive South Asian countries, life is actually South Asian. And that’s not going to change, at least in your generation.
As a citizen of what is arguably the least repressed city in this country, I’d rather not remember that I’m a South Asian woman, subject at any time to the South Asian way of life.
I know it’s out there, but I’ve managed to create a bubble for myself that keeps it out.
But I also know the bubble is fragile. That every day something will happen or be said to remind me that as a South Asian woman, I really ought not to have a life. That knowledge is always at the back of my mind, a worry that will never go away.
It can’t go away: I was born in a country that’s in a region where no one sees anyone as a person. People are not people. A woman is not a person, she is defined by her gender and therefore must live a certain way. A man is not a person, he is defined by his gender and therefore must live a certain way.
A follower of any religion is not a person, she/he is defined by that religion and must live a certain way. A member of any caste is not a person, s/he is defined by that caste and must live a certain way.
There are no persons in South Asia. There are only defined categories of living things, out of which some individual living things try to emerge, but this seldom happens without violence and heartbreak.
That’s why I don’t like reading books by Nadeem Aslam. I’m a South Asian woman in South Asia, who’s intelligent and independent, but I’m living in a bubble and I’d rather not be reminded of it.
And he’s the only writer I’ve read in English who genuinely gets the South Asian culture across.
He’s a UK Pakistani (not born there, though) whose books are set in the UK, Pakistan and Afghanistan, but they could just as well be set in Bombay. India may be the least repressive country in the region, but that does not mean it’s not repressive.
As the Delhi gangrape case showed us when the media genuinely went after it and women started talking, there’s very little difference between India and Afghanistan.
So I never want to read a book by Nadeem Aslam. But I also can’t stop myself because he writes so well which is why I’ve read every book he’s ever written. Each one made me want to shoot myself because it hurt so much, but I couldn’t put it down.
It’s not nice to read books that make you want to shoot yourself, which is why, when I learn that Nadeem Aslam has a new book out, the only thing I can think is, oh bleep.
And then I proceed to buy it.
Hindustan Times



Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 3:34 pm
You being an intelligent person, a self-introspection (Chintan-BaiThak!) would answer your own questions. There should be no need for anyone else to furnish explicit answers.
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Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 3:38 pm
Mr.Tandon,
Ishwar has asked a very important question. Why does this movement become tainted if RSS supports its.
If you look at the records RSS is as communal as CONGRESS, as divisive as Sonia’s party…
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Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 4:29 pm
Rajeev,
you are being blasphemous, calling the ultra secular congress, which has Digvinash as its general secretary as communal as the RSS. You should have rather said, the RSS is as secular as the congress and as divisive as the Muslim League. This is clearly your attempt at tearing the ’secular fabric’ of the nation, so assiduously woven by the great party, which, incidentally, also won the freedom from colonial rule. Vinod Sharma is only a ‘humble admirer’ of the party and its supreme leader, who also got duly elected.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 5:47 pm
Mr.Shenoy,
Congress is no better than Jamat-e-Islami or RSS or Muslim league. It has stayed in power by dividing Society. It was the first party that used casteist equations such as KHAM (in Gujarat) to stay in power. All parties whether communal, casteist or regionalists owe their ideological existence to Congress, the mother of all evils.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 4:50 pm
Rajeev
“Why does this movement become tainted if RSS supports it?”
It was Anna Hazare who rubbished Mohan Bhagwat’s claim of support and active participation. Anna and his team should answer as to why?
Yes, I agree, every party plays a communal and/or a caste and/or a regional card, but it is only the RSS that gets bracketed as a communal organisation and most others do not wish to touch it. Why is it so? Should the RSS and its supporters introspect or that is to be outsourced?
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 5:45 pm
Tandon,
RSS is just trying to take advantage of Anna’s movement.
“but it is only the RSS that gets bracketed as a communal organisation and most others do not wish to touch it. Why is it so? ”
The reasons can be many. One reason may be Congressi media (journos like Vinod) who shield congress from any communal taint. Let us not forget every journo (of Vinod’s generation and even after) has congressi upbringing. This is the major reason that RSS gets tainted but Congress is spared.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 6:23 pm
A very recent example is riots in Bharatpur Rajasthan (ruled by Congress), 15 muslims were gunned down in and around mosque. The mosque was riddled with bullets. We did not see any condemnation by secular media other than routine reporting.
There were evidences that Congress leaders allowed matters to precipitate but congress high command did not even rebuke Gehlot.
Pro-Congress media keeps silent on Congress sponsored riots (one being 1984) and calls everyone else communalists to keep congress in power.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 6:34 pm
1) RSS is just trying to take advantage of Anna’s movement.
Yes, but it landed up with egg on its face.
2) The reasons can be many, there are and not without reason. They are too well known to be repeated.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 6:45 pm
Tandon,
I agree with the first one and totally disagree with second one. More than 4-5 generations of Indians have congressi upbringing and that makes them very defensive of Congress.
You take any walk of life, you will find Congressis dominating it. The IAS/IPS cadres, govt. employees are either congressis or have congressi upbringing. All these NGO wallahs are pro-congress gangs who pretend to be voice of people. The NHRC itself is full of congressis..When Rahul blurted out inaccurate info. on Bhatta-Parsaul, NHRC intially did not agree but when it got dressing down by Congress, the WRC (women rights commission) fabricated a report to prove Rahul right.
The only way to get rid of all the malaise is by detoxifying this country of Congressism and then not allow other toxicants RSS or communists to pollute the national psyche.
Anonymous Reply:
October 17th, 2011 at 7:01 pm
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